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Decision 2012 (And I’m Not Talking About Voting for a President!)

February 6, 2012

OK,I  know it had been awhile since I posted, but my life is in a bit of turmoil.  I must make a major life decision.  I have NEVER been very good at this.  Of course my gut always tells me one thing; my heart tells me something else; my head has it’s own opinion; and of course…my friends each weigh-in with about 8 different options also!  So how do I decide?  I will have to carry this decision with me the rest of my life.  Normally, I follow my heart and let me tell you…that is always 100% the wrong choice. When I look back on all the “life decision” situations, in their entirety; I should have gone with my gut feeling from the very beginning.  Had I done this, I would not have allowed these situations to fester and become deep scars that are incapable of ever being removed or forgotten.  I then move on in my life carrying these scars from previous bad “life decisions” (i.e. BAGGAGE!)  

So here I sit again at another crossroads in my life and feeling afraid to make a bad decision; so I make no decision at all.  Yet sitting here is like watching paint dry! Nothing is being accomplished, I am not happy, and this situation just continues to fester; all because I don’t have the balls to BE ME; DO WHAT MAKES ME HAPPY; AND BE OK WITH MY DECISION!!  At 41 years old; I realize that no one can solve this problem but God.  We all know this, but how many of us actively practice this decision-making method?  I practice it when I am desperate…but in my daily life…NOPE!  I seriously need to evaluate my religious life and learn how to connect with God in a manner that operates in a 2-way manner.  Just as God tries to give and receive with me; I need to actively do the same on a daily.  Not just when I am feeling desperate.  Right now, I feel so incredibly alone–yet there is a reason for this.  So that I can seek God!  I need to pray, listen and watch.  Honestly, I have been listening and watching and some things have come to pass to show me that I am on the right path to working my way out of the predicament I am in, but the key component–PRAYER–needs to be instituted; as I know that will give me some peace, settle my anxiety; and center me as I move through this journey.      

I have come to realize that I am in this situation once again; forced to make this same decision; because I obviously didn’t learn my lesson last time and while the decision I made last time WAS the right decision.  It was made at the wrong time in the wrong manner.  What I am learning in this process? 1.) You will never be happy unless you are being your authentic self; 2.) If it is meant for you; it will be very easy to obtain; 3.) You MUST make time for yourself ; and 4.) You must make life decisions in the moment that the decision demands to be made.

I just want everyone who reads this to pray for peace, happiness and direction for me and my family as we continue on this journey.  That is all I have ever wanted…PEACE, HAPPINESS & DIRECTION (so I don’t feel alone). 

How do you make decisions…leave your comments below!


Baby I am a…STAR (in my Prince singing voice)…for the Nappiology Expo!

October 29, 2011

Well, actually, I was on TV for about 3 seconds as a hair model…but Im going to take my 5 minutes 3 seconds how ever I can get it!

This is how the story goes…

De, who is the creator of the Meetup Group: Nappiology and founder of; has had her PR Consultant, Ramona Logan of RL Image Advantage going hard in the name of the Nappiology Expo, that is happening here in the Dallas/Ft. Worth area on Saturday, November 5th.  One of the many media opportunities Ramona was able to secure was a spot on WFAA, Channel 8’s Saturday morning show “News 8 Daybreak” with Host Shon Gables

De, Founder of & Ramona Logan, Owner of RL Image Advantage

 De sent out an “all hands on deck” email to the Nappiology members because she needed hair models for this opportunity.  The spot would have a few women modeling different natural hairstyles while a commentator gave tidbits about each models natural hair journey and description of the style.  Of course, yours truly was all over it (secretly I am a reality star waiting to be discovered!!!!).  Since I promptly replied (the email didn’t even completely load before I hit reply with a “YES, I’m, in!”), I was selected to model a twistout hair style.  Four other ladies were also selected to model: locs (Keisha R.), TWA (Stephanie W.), heat trained hair (Katrena M.), and a braided style (Gerreka G.) and our commentator sported a wash-n-go (yes, De had ALL bases covered!)

Nappiology Hair Models (L to R: Stephanie W., Stephanie J., De, Gerreka G., Katrena M., Keisha R., & Me!)

I got to see behind the scenes of the WFAA Studio; I met all of the News 8 Daybreak reporters, I got to see the live shooting of the show and how fast things go, and I got to see and meet some gorgeous ladies who live in the DFW and proudly sport some of the cutest natural styles! 

Most importantly, De and her “baby” Nappiology received some great publicity for the Expo–and all in the name of networking, natural hair and fun!!!

Check out my photos of this fabulous opportunity below!

So…will you be attending the Nappiology Expo?  If so, what are you looking forward to seeing and doing?  Leave your comments below.


6 Natural Hair Styles for 40+ Professionals

August 2, 2011

I am an avid watcher of the natural hair videos on YouTube. I enjoy receiving all the great information so much, that I created an account on YouTube; subscribed to my favorite channels; and receive notifications on my phone when my favorite channels have posted new videos (yes baby your iphone can do all that!). The women, who have dedicated their time and creativity to creating content on a regular basis for this outlet; have my admiration and appreciation. However; what I notice is that a majority of the YouTube natural hair community is between the ages of 18 and 35; and when viewing these videos, while I find the styles, cute for the weekend or for “going out”, there are not a lot of videos from and/or for AAW’s in midlife.

I would not wear a “fro-hawk” to my daughter’s school’s open-house; I cannot wear a head full of Bantu knots to my organizations Board meeting; and I cannot wear my air-dried afro to a stakeholder’s strategy meeting for work. I know there are a significant number of AAW’s in midlife that have chosen the natural hair route, yet I find that a lot of the hairstyles in the YouTube videos are not professional/age appropriate for AAW’s in midlife.

Now I am fully prepared for the onslaught of opinions about what is considered appropriate and professional when it comes to natural hairstyling; but also remember that this article is based on MY OPINION about what is professional and appropriate. Unfortunately, there are no statistics documenting the number of AAW’s, in midlife, in America wearing their hair in a natural state; but I can tell you, if you visit YouTube, the trend is catching on like wildfire!

Since I am lazy and have no desire to make videos demonstrating some of my favorite professional/age appropriate styles for my midlifers; I created a list of links to some of my favorite YouTube videos that do. I hope you find these helpful and feel free to send me links to your favorite professional hairstyles, so that we can share them with the family!

  • Professional and Chic Natural Hairstyle Tutorial by Naptural85:
  • Easy Delicate natural Hairstyle by Naptural85:
  • How to Refresh & Style Mini Twist by 160Days2Lose2:
  • Short natural Hair: Protective Style: Twist Updo by atinawaya:
  • Flat Twist Updo with Bun * New Years Inspired Look by seemyhealthhair:
  • Eightcornrow Tutorial by ForeverCurlyCatrina:

My attempt at an updo: