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Decision 2012 (And I’m Not Talking About Voting for a President!)

February 6, 2012

OK,I  know it had been awhile since I posted, but my life is in a bit of turmoil.  I must make a major life decision.  I have NEVER been very good at this.  Of course my gut always tells me one thing; my heart tells me something else; my head has it’s own opinion; and of course…my friends each weigh-in with about 8 different options also!  So how do I decide?  I will have to carry this decision with me the rest of my life.  Normally, I follow my heart and let me tell you…that is always 100% the wrong choice. When I look back on all the “life decision” situations, in their entirety; I should have gone with my gut feeling from the very beginning.  Had I done this, I would not have allowed these situations to fester and become deep scars that are incapable of ever being removed or forgotten.  I then move on in my life carrying these scars from previous bad “life decisions” (i.e. BAGGAGE!)  

So here I sit again at another crossroads in my life and feeling afraid to make a bad decision; so I make no decision at all.  Yet sitting here is like watching paint dry! Nothing is being accomplished, I am not happy, and this situation just continues to fester; all because I don’t have the balls to BE ME; DO WHAT MAKES ME HAPPY; AND BE OK WITH MY DECISION!!  At 41 years old; I realize that no one can solve this problem but God.  We all know this, but how many of us actively practice this decision-making method?  I practice it when I am desperate…but in my daily life…NOPE!  I seriously need to evaluate my religious life and learn how to connect with God in a manner that operates in a 2-way manner.  Just as God tries to give and receive with me; I need to actively do the same on a daily.  Not just when I am feeling desperate.  Right now, I feel so incredibly alone–yet there is a reason for this.  So that I can seek God!  I need to pray, listen and watch.  Honestly, I have been listening and watching and some things have come to pass to show me that I am on the right path to working my way out of the predicament I am in, but the key component–PRAYER–needs to be instituted; as I know that will give me some peace, settle my anxiety; and center me as I move through this journey.      

I have come to realize that I am in this situation once again; forced to make this same decision; because I obviously didn’t learn my lesson last time and while the decision I made last time WAS the right decision.  It was made at the wrong time in the wrong manner.  What I am learning in this process? 1.) You will never be happy unless you are being your authentic self; 2.) If it is meant for you; it will be very easy to obtain; 3.) You MUST make time for yourself ; and 4.) You must make life decisions in the moment that the decision demands to be made.

I just want everyone who reads this to pray for peace, happiness and direction for me and my family as we continue on this journey.  That is all I have ever wanted…PEACE, HAPPINESS & DIRECTION (so I don’t feel alone). 

How do you make decisions…leave your comments below!

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Nappiology Expo Happy Hour–A SUCCESS!

November 4, 2011

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De, the founder of Nappiology.net kicked off the Nappiology Expo weekend with a wonderful pre-party Happy Hour at the Aloft W Hotel in Las Colinas, Tx. The venue was very classy and sophisticated; the turnout/ support/love was absolutely amazing; and the women and their hair were EXTRAORDINARY!

This happy hour gave a lot of us an opportunity to network and discuss our hair but I felt the biggest thing taken away from this intimate event was the feeling of “sisterhood”. I have never seen so many women in one place who were 100% focused on being friendly, courteous, loving and uplifting to one another. I was soooo incredibly proud of my natural hair sisters!

One highlight of the evening was the Nappiology signature drink (designed by De for this event) and another was Isis Brantley (nationally known natural hair guru), who made an appearance to show support for De and the Expo!

No matter what people say; I truly believe that African American women are some of the most loving and devoted women on this earth and when they become passionate about something…Y’ALL BETTA WATCH OUT!

De has taken a passion of ours and put it on “blast” so that all of us can unite (through organized events like this); educate (by sharing our stories with each other–and the world!); and grow (by allowing the events and our unification foster new businesses ventures, blogs, and websites). THANK YOU DE…for being the passionate, friendly, down-to-earth catalyst for this “movement”; keep doing what you are doing and know that you will always have our support!

See pics from the Happy Hour below:

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If you attended the Happy Hour this evening, post your comments & pictures below to share with everyone!

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Nappiology Expo Happy Hour–TONIGHT!

November 4, 2011

Today is the Nappiology Expo Happy Hour being hosted by Nappiology, Inc at the Aloft Hotel (Las Colinas) from 4:30-8. This the pre-cursor to the big event tomorrow…The NAPPIOLOGY EXPO!!! I will be there documenting tonight’s festivities and the actual Expo for my blog & tweeting live from both!

If you want a “shoutout” you better find me!!!!

I am looking forward to meeting all the beautiful people who participate in the Natural Hair Community in the DFW & beyond!

Post a comment to “rep” your city below!!!

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A Halloween Party for Us “Old Heads”

November 1, 2011

I have  never really gotten into the “dressing up” thing for Halloween, but this year, my neighbors held a fabulous Halloween party for us adults at their home (costumes required and no kids!).  Now my circle of friends in the DFW consist mostly of couples in the 35+ age group with multiple school age children, so we do a lot of “entertaining” (that’s what us  suburabnites call it LOL!) at each others homes with children in tow.  So the fact that they were offering an adult only night was EXCITEMENT! 

Now most of the couples dressed in themes and my SO being the competitive type was not about to let anyone out -do us.  So “hi-ho, hi-ho, off to the thrift store I go to purchase items for our costumes.  We chose to dress up as 2 construction workers and we were a hit (of course I had to hype it up by being a MALE construction worker–now mind you he is 6’1 and I am a towering 5’0!!!).  Everyone thought we looked hilarious and of course seeing us all “boo-ed” (yes, that is a word!) just made matters worse!  I had so much fun dressing up that I think we might do this again next year!  Check out some choice shots from the crazy costumes below:

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Add this is what you look like when you have partied WAAAYYY beyond your bedtime!!!  LOL!

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Share your photos of Halloween costumes so we can all laugh at admire your creativity and handy work!  Post them below!!!

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Attention All Hampton University Alumni

November 1, 2011

If you are an aspiring, current, or alumni of Hampton University send me your pics (PG rated!), stories (keep ’em clean!), or just a simple shout out (to your dorm, your class, your clique, etc.) to be posted on the website for the “Friday reminisce” which will feature my alma mater…HAMPTON UNIVERSITY (the real HU if you don’t know!)

Send all documents you would like to include to:

ablackwomansmidlife@yahoo.com

DEADLINE FOR SUBMISSIONS:WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 30TH, 2011

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Baby I am a…STAR (in my Prince singing voice)…for the Nappiology Expo!

October 29, 2011

Well, actually, I was on TV for about 3 seconds as a hair model…but Im going to take my 5 minutes 3 seconds how ever I can get it!

This is how the story goes…

De, who is the creator of the Meetup Group: Nappiology and founder of Nappiology.net; has had her PR Consultant, Ramona Logan of RL Image Advantage going hard in the name of the Nappiology Expo, that is happening here in the Dallas/Ft. Worth area on Saturday, November 5th.  One of the many media opportunities Ramona was able to secure was a spot on WFAA, Channel 8’s Saturday morning show “News 8 Daybreak” with Host Shon Gables

De, Founder of Nappiology.net & Ramona Logan, Owner of RL Image Advantage

 De sent out an “all hands on deck” email to the Nappiology members because she needed hair models for this opportunity.  The spot would have a few women modeling different natural hairstyles while a commentator gave tidbits about each models natural hair journey and description of the style.  Of course, yours truly was all over it (secretly I am a reality star waiting to be discovered!!!!).  Since I promptly replied (the email didn’t even completely load before I hit reply with a “YES, I’m, in!”), I was selected to model a twistout hair style.  Four other ladies were also selected to model: locs (Keisha R.), TWA (Stephanie W.), heat trained hair (Katrena M.), and a braided style (Gerreka G.) and our commentator sported a wash-n-go (yes, De had ALL bases covered!)

Nappiology Hair Models (L to R: Stephanie W., Stephanie J., De, Gerreka G., Katrena M., Keisha R., & Me!)

I got to see behind the scenes of the WFAA Studio; I met all of the News 8 Daybreak reporters, I got to see the live shooting of the show and how fast things go, and I got to see and meet some gorgeous ladies who live in the DFW and proudly sport some of the cutest natural styles! 

Most importantly, De and her “baby” Nappiology received some great publicity for the Expo–and all in the name of networking, natural hair and fun!!!

Check out my photos of this fabulous opportunity below!

So…will you be attending the Nappiology Expo?  If so, what are you looking forward to seeing and doing?  Leave your comments below.

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Family Time at the State Fair of Texas

October 19, 2011

It is that time of year–FAIR TIME!!!  The State Fair of Texas is up and running until Sunday, October 23 and my family made our annual trek to partake in the festivities last weekend.  Since I have moved to Texas, this has been an annual event for our family.  We round-up as many discount tickets as we can get our hands on; load up the Tahoe with as many kids as will fit, empty the bank account (LITERALLY!); and eat and ride until we run out of money or fall out from exhaustion; whichever comes first!

This year we went with our neighbor’s family and had a great time!  The adults ate until we almost burst and the kids rode a million rides and spent enough money on games to purchase a Mercedes…nonetheless, when we all piled back into our car, content with our State Fair experience!

 

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Family time is a VERY important to fostering a loving environment in which to raise children.  The SO & myself never discussed what traditions we wanted to establish with our family unit, but this was the first one to evolve.  Every year, it becomes more important to me that we do this; because as the children grow older and choose to spend less time with us, we have to commit to doing certain activities as a family unit in order to impress upon them the importance of family.  What family traditions do you have and what do they represent for your unit?  Leave a comment below!